A Medium’s Perspective
Ever since coming out of the “spiritual closet,” I have had several people say things like, “I don’t see how you live your life being able to do these things.” It seems very odd to people that one can live a “normal life” while spending their days talking to spirits, channeling “aliens,” or remote viewing. My first thought is, Well, I live my life just like you do. I blast music while cleaning my house, I get frustrated when paying the bills, I play video games to relax, and I mess up cooking dinner more often than I make a great meal. Most of the time, after an intense channeling session bringing through seemingly complex information, an hour later I am with my husband watching Marvel movies to unwind. Normal human life, right?
At first, these types of questions and comments triggered a teenage fear within me. What if I am weird or different from other people and can’t fit in?
Wait a minute. We are all mediums. After all, we are all spiritual beings having a human experience, not the other way around. The people calling themselves “mediums” or “channelers” are simply the people who chose to develop and spend their time doing that particular work. That does not mean they are any more special or chosen than anyone else. It is the same concept as someone having an affinity in the kitchen and therefore training to work in the culinary arts field. But we don’t tend to think of ourselves as professional chefs just because we make ourselves dinner every evening.
However, if I am having dinner with a professional chef, I would probably ask them questions about what they have learned from their vocation. I would ask their opinions about the food we are eating, the restaurants they like, and would probably even ask them for recipes or cooking tips for my homemade meals.
Thankfully, being past the teenage phase, I have accepted that I am, in fact, different. But it isn’t being a medium that makes me different. It is the culmination of my experiences that have shaped my life differently.
I could talk all day about how grief affects us and how life is eternal, but seeing as I already wrote a blog about that, I will not take up your time by repeating it. Instead, I hope to share how some insights from beyond the human world have shaped my day-to-day life.
Each of our lives is so important—but not in the way we think they are. We all have roles to play, lessons to learn, people to affect, and things to create. Most of us live our lives focused on things that really don’t matter much in the grand scheme of things. I have never had a spirit come through and spend much time talking about how much money they made, the material items they accumulated, or the corporate ladder they climbed. But what did they boast about? The memories they shared with their families, the friendships they cherished, and the legacy they left behind through their interactions with others.
A father who argued with his daughter near the end of his life came through to talk about how much he loved playing board games with her during her childhood, rather than continuing the argument. A mother who constantly criticized wanted to come through and tell her daughter that she is proud of her and regrets not telling her more in life. And what do they say most of all? How important the people in their lives were to their story. The people around us—“good” or “bad” relationships—help teach us the most valuable lessons about life and ourselves.
Live. Laugh. Love. I know those home décor signs seem so cheesy now, but they are good reminders. These are the moments that matter, yet we rush past them because we are tired or busy. Our minds are filled with deadlines, bills, worries, and judgments of ourselves and others. None of those matter when our lifetime is over.
Every day, I try to take a moment to feel into what does matter. While I do appreciate having a tidy house, there are times when I should put off cleaning so I can spend time with my husband while he is home. Instead of scrolling on social media, maybe I will take those 30 minutes to go on a walk with my dog and admire how beautiful my neighborhood is. The time we spend connecting with ourselves, the people who matter to us, and even nature is always time well spent. It not only creates a more fulfilling life while we are living it, but also sustains us on the spirit side. The loved ones left here cherish those memories now, even if they took them for granted in the moment.
It seems that we have become so busy in this world that most of us have forgotten that we are spirits just wearing human suits. We live in such a human-need-driven existence. While this is a valuable part of the human experience, it is not all of it. Love your life while you are having it. Follow your heart. Take a chance on pursuing your dreams. Enjoy the memories while you are in them. Rather than focusing on the past or the future, reside in the present moment.
